Men are from Mars,Women are from Venus

Imagine that men are from mars and women are from venus. One day long ago the Martians, looking through the telescopes, discovered the venusians. Just glimpsing the venusians awakened feelings they had never known.They fell in love and quicly invented space travel and flew to venus.
The Venusians welcomed the Martians with open arms. They had intuitively known that this day would come. Their hearts opened wide to a love they had never felt before.
The love between the Venusians and Martians was magical. They delighted from being together, doing things together and sharing together.

Though from different worlds , they reveled in differences. They spent months learning about each other, exploring and appreciating thei different needs, preferences, and behavior patterns. For years they lived together in love and harmony.
Then they decided to fly to Earth. In the beginning everything was wonderful and beautiful. But the effects of Earth's atmosphere took hold, and one morning everyone woke up with a peculiar amnesia (selective amnesia!).
Both the Martians and Venusians forgot that they were from different planetsand were supposed to be different. In one morning everything the had learned about their differences was erased from their memory. And since that day men and women have been in conflict.

REMEMBERING OUR DIFFERENCES

Without the awareness that we are supposed to be different, men and women are at odds with each other. We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex because we have forgotten this important truth. We expect the opposite sex to be more ourselves. We desire them to "want what we want" and "feel the way we feel".
We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways (the ways react and behave when we love someone). This attitude sets up to be disappointed again and again and prevents us from taking the necessary time to communicate lovingly about our differences.
Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate and respnd the way women do. We have forgotten that men and women are supposed to be differen. As a result our relationships are filled with unnecessary friction and conflict.
Clearely recognizing and respecting those differences dramatically reduces confusion when dealing with the opposite sex. When you remember that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, everything can be explained.

"When men and women are able to respect and accept

their differences then love has a chance to blossom."

• Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.

The most frequently expressed complaint women have about men is that "men don't listen". Either a man completely ignores her when she speaks to him, or he listens for a few beats, assesses what is bothering her, and then proudly puts on his "Mr. Fix-It cap" and offers her a solution to make her feel better. On the other hand. the most frequently expressed complaint men have about womenis that "women are always trying to change them". Weh a woman loves a man she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things.

These two problems can finally be solved by first understanding why men offer solutions and why women seek to improve. Let's pretend to go back in time, where by observing life on Mars and Venus.

Life on Mars

Martians value power, competency, efficiency and achievement. They are always doing things to prove themselves and develop their power and skills. Their sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results. They experience fulfillment primarily through success and accomplishment. They are more interested in "objects" and "things" rather than people and feelings.

Life on Venus

Venusians have different values. They value love, communication, beauty and relationships. They spent a lot of time supporting, helping, and nurturing one another. Their sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships. They experienced fulfillment through sharing and relating. They are interested in "Feelings" and "People".

That's why we consider as men in a "Thinking" category of life and women in a "Feeling" category.

If you are really interested, and you want to know more about men and women and their differences, please read "men are from Mars, women are from Venus" by John Gray, Ph.D.

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